A flower falls and a weed grows…

A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows even we don’t love it…


Dalam hidup ini tentunya ada hal-hal yang kita sukai dan ada yang tidak. Meskipun demikian, kehidupan ini akan terus berlanjut sekalipun kita tidak menyukainya.

Memang manusia merupakan makhluk yang paling sempurna diantara semua makhluk hidup lainnya, tapi toh tidak selamanya manusia mampu mengendalikan hidupnya. Terlepas dari segala pencapaian-pencapaian manusia, tetap saja manusia tidak bisa mengubah roda kehidupan. Ada hal-hal yang dapat diusahakan dan dicapai dengan kerja keras, tapi di sisi lain ada hal-hal yang harus terjadi dan memang seyogyanya terjadi.

Terhadap hal-hal tersebut mau tak mau kita memang harus menerimanya dan mengubah sikap hati kita untuk menyesuaikan diri dengan keadaan tersebut. Toh meskipun kita menentangnya, tapi tetap saja hal itu tidak dapat diubah. Biarkan saja hal itu terjadi. Tak perlu disesali maupun larut dalam kesedihan, kekecewaan dan keputusasaan yang malah akan menghancurkan keindahan hidup ini. Tuhan, Sang Pencipta telah mengatur hidup ini sedemikan rupa sehingga manusia dapat terus menjalaninya.

Ketika anda mungkin saat ini tengah menghadapi hal yang tidak nyaman, tidak berarti anda menjalani kehidupan yang buruk. Anda memang tidak dapat mengubah kehidupan anda sesuka hati anda, tetapi anda dapat mengubah sikap hati anda. Percayalah bahwa hidup anda terus bergulir untuk kebaikan. Jangan memusuhi hidup, tetapi rangkullah dengan tangan terbuka, niscaya anda akan mampu menghadapi hari esok dengan senyuman…


In this life, there are many things happened. Some things we love, but the other part we don’t. Whether we like it or not, life will keep goes on. Even there are many things we want to avoid but we can’t. We are only mere humans. Some things we could change after we worked hard, but for the other ones, even we tried our best, nothing would change.

Our disability to control every part in our life proves that there is an Almighty God who leads our life. For the parts that we can’t change, just let it go. Don’t stuck with it, or you will lose the other pretty parts. God has created everything in this universe for our sake, for us humans to stay alive, whether we like it or not.

Maybe right now you have a difficult time, and you face a situation you don’t like, but it doesn’t mean you get a bad life. When you can change your life as much as you want, you still can change your heart, how your will react facing this unfriendly world. Trusts me, you get your life for a good sake. Don’t fight against your life, but get it as your ally. I hope you will able to stand for tomorrow with a big smile.


Three questions before you tell me some news…

A : Hi, buddy… I have some news for you…

B : Wait friend, before you tell me your news, let me ask you three questions first.

A : Emm, ok…

B : First, can you guarantee the news that you will tell me are true or they are just some people’s opinions?

A : I don’t know whether it’s true or not.

B : Ok, then the second one, are they good news? Do they bring any good?

A : I don’t think so…

B : The last one, do they have any business with me? I mean does the news you will tell me bring me any impact?

A : Emm, no…

B : Then I think I don’t need to listen the news that you bring if they don’t true, don’t bring any good, and have no business with me…

Bersyukurlah – Be grateful

Hidup di Dunia Penuh Syukur

Living in Grateful World


Bersyukurlah atas orang yang mencela anda, karena mereka telah meningkatkan kebijaksanaan anda.

Be grateful of people who insulted you, for they contribute for your wise.


Bersyukurlah atas orang yang menyandung anda, karena mereka telah meningkatkan kemampuan anda.

Be grateful of people who tripped you, for they strengthen your ability.


Bersyukurlah atas orang yang menelantarkan anda, karena mereka telah mengajarkan kemandirian anda.

Be grateful of people who abandoned you, for they teach you to be independent.


Bersyukurlah atas orang yang melukai anda, karena mereka telah mengikis buah karman buruk anda.

Be grateful of people who hit you, for they eliminate your bad karma.


Bersyukurlah atas orang yang menipu anda, karena mereka telah memperluas wawasan anda.

Be grateful of people who deceived you, for they enhanced your knowledge.


Bersyukurlah atas orang yang menyakiti anda, karena mereka telah melatih ketabahan anda.

Be grateful of people who hurt you, for they hone your patience.


Bersyukurlah kepada semua orang yang telah menjadikan anda tetap teguh menuju jalan keberhasilan.

Be grateful to all people who make you stay strong on your way to success.

Death, is it the ultimate fear?

Last night, I had a little chat with my friend. We talked about what is the ultimate fear, if people aren’t afraid with death anymore, so what is the ultimate one that surpasses it? Well, I think nowadays people aren’t fear with death anymore. If I can say, maybe they are more afraid facing live rather than death. Let’s check the simple things that we always do in our daily live. When we drive our vehicle, there is usually someone that drives with high speed, while another one keep driving even the traffic lamp turns red. All of us know it’s dangerous but it doesn’t stop us. Maybe they, the people who did it, more afraid if they were late on urgent thing, maybe it was their business, or maybe losing their reputation as the on- time businessman was scarier than lost their life. Ok, maybe you’ve never done it, but what about answering the phone call while you’re driving? It can cause an accident and we can lose our life, isn’t it? It’s mean there are other things that we’re more afraid, maybe your wife will be angry with you if you don’t answer her call =p
In the other case, there are many people who dare to take a risk facing death with some purpose. Look at them who do the extreme sports. For me, I myself don’t like them, so I can’t comment it. Maybe they have similarity with the people who work as stuntmen. I don’t know, maybe because it is their hobby so they do the dangerous thing or maybe they really need money. If it’s the second one, once again, it’s money that drives their life. Maybe they are more afraid life without money rather than take a risk losing their life.
It’s different with the people who went to the war. They who fought for get their freedom, their rights as human being. The heroes who went to the battlefield must be afraid to die, but it was scarier for them when the human rights were violated. That’s why they dared to fight for what was they fought, their hope for a better future.
Another case that can be more serious is losing our life with purpose. Well, nowadays we have many suicide cases that caused by ridiculous things and it should be no need to do. For example: a boy who got suicide because his parents couldn’t buy him a new handphone. Maybe his friends bullied him, and he got afraid with the bullying so he decided to end his pain with a suicide. I hope this case can get our attention. We have to be careful with our deeds, of course we don’t want our deeds bring pains to other. Lately cyber bullying gets hot. –Thanks to my friend for rebuking me.- Look at the people who promise to do this and that if certain condition was happened in facebook. And many people comment him, most of them mock him. What is the different with you mock your friends. It’s known as bullying, isn’t it? Let’s think, we don’t know whether it’s him or his friends who did it. Maybe his friends thought it was funny. But if it’s you who were the victim, is it funny? Think bout it, you will face hell. Many people will mock you for the thing you don’t do. If you can’t stand it, maybe you will think suicide is the shortpass to get free. Please beware with our deeds. Don’t let us bring disaster to anyone, even we have no purpose when do it.
There are many other things that can cause people lost heart for continue their life, such as get in debts that can’t be paid, have no money for living, or lost something important, like job or family member that made they lost their passion in live. The point is when a man loses his hope, he will lose his brave for facing life. Maybe they will think that death is more beautiful than live. As my respond for the statement that death is the men’s ultimate fear, I don’t think so. Live without hope is more frightening rather than die. If you lose your hope today and you think that tomorrow is scary, please remember God will not leave us. He who always be with us since we as born, keep walking with us in the sunny days and the darkest night, will He not do such things tomorrow?
I remember a wall ornament in my house. It’s written ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’, a word from Heb 13:5.
Anyway, as my last words, suddenly I get this on my head, Proverbs 23:18, “There is a surely hope for you and your hope will not cut off.”

Isi penak jamanku???


Seorang teman memasang gambar seperti ini di kontak BB nya, dan hal ini menggelitik saya. Kalau gambar yang atas saya rasa sudah biasa dan lazim ditemui. Tapi gambar yang kedua yang terasa mengena. Bukan karena figur yang digunakan sedang hot, tapi karena kata-kata yang ditampilkan oleh figur tersebut. Mayoritas orang merasa masa lalunya lebih enak dan nyaman, kecuali jika orang itu memiliki masa lalu yang suram dan menghantui hidupnya. Bagi saya sendiri, saat ini saya merasa bahwa masa-masa kuliah dulu lebih menyenangkan daripada sekarang, dan ketika kuliah saya sering berbagi cerita, bernostalgia dengan teman-teman sekolah dulu dan kami sependapat bahwa masa-masa SMP-SMA lebih mengasyikkan daripada kehidupan kuliah saat itu.

Jika ditelusuri, ada kecenderungan di mana manusia merasa bahwa kehidupan saat ini dirasa sulit sehingga dengan melihat ke belakang dan melihat keberhasilan-keberhasilan dan pencapaian di masa lalu, hal itu dipandang lebih menyenangkan. Tapi perlu diingat bahwa pada saat itu, kita juga menghadapi kesulitan dan berhasil melewatinya. Saya percaya di kemudian hari kita akan mengatakan bahwa saat ini akan lebih menyenangkan tatkala kita berhadapan dengan kesulitan yang lebih besar. Sejatinya manusia akan terus bertumbuh dan masalah-masalah yang akan dihadapi di kemudian hari tentunya jauh lebih berat dan kompleks seiring dengan perkembangan kedewasaan kita.

Berhenti memandang masa lalu dan hadapi saat ini. Itulah yang dikatakan oleh gambar kedua. Saya rasa ada waktunya kita harus berhenti melihat ke belakang dan menghadapi apa yang ada di depan mata kita. Banyak orang tidak mampu menerima kenyataan dan terus mengeluh sehingga tidak dapat menikmati keindahan hidup yang ada sekarang. Terus menerus bernostalgia terasa menyenangkan tapi kenyataannya adalah kita hidup di masa sekarang. Seandainya pun kita bisa menghadirkan apa yang ada di masa lalu, tetap saja keadaannya akan berbeda karena kita sendiri sudah berbeda, kita bukan kita yang dulu.

Katakan tidak pada gambar yang pertama dan terus lanjutkan hidup anda, menghadapi perubahan demi perubahan yang menanti di depan mata kita…

It just blooms…

“Mom, look at my face. Oh there’s two pimples… what should we do to hide them… Oh mom, they will ruin my prom night…” said a girl. She and her mother are preparing her prom.

“Oh mom, tonight I will be the ugliest girl. There will be many beautiful girls. How if Ted look at another girl and he regrets his decision asking me to the prom…” she keeps talk, closes her face with both of her hands.

“Dear, look at yourself in the mirror,” said her mother. You’re beautiful. Your dress is wonderfull. “What can the pimples do about you? They can do nothing. It’s you who decide to ruin your prom by yourself. They have nothing to do.” She opens her hands and watching herself in the mirror. “And about Ted, you’ve been known him for the whole year. Do you really think he does care?”

“Look at the flowers outside,” her mother brings her to the window. “Which one do you like?”

“Hmmm, I like the rose, but I think jasmine is beautiful too, and I like lily as much as I like both of them… All of them are beautiful Mom, I think you did a great job with them.”

“A flower doesn’t think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms. Now you can make yourself enjoy the prom. Ted will be here soon, won’t he?”

The girl hugs her Mom, “Thanks Mom…”