social media status updating

Today, we have a lot of kinds of status updating on media social. We started with facebook status update, then continued on blackberry’s and today, the most popular one was instagram story. Let me ask you, what do you expect of status updating?  What will you obtain after updating something in your social media?

I don’t know about you, but after watching and commenting my friend’s status, I concluded that they were looking for some attentions. The aim of their status updating was thy wanted to be got some likes or comments from anyone. Some of them wanted to be praised because they did something that amazed lots of people, while the other wanted to be noticed because somehow they felt that other people, especially their closest ones ignoring them. I myself had the same reasons behind publishing my social media statuses.

The question is: is it wrong? I don’t think so. Every human being needs to be loved, to be noticed, to be praised. It is a basic need. But, without realizing it, some people had exposed their personal life. They showed everyone how they actually were, only to get some attentions. The problem was the things that they published sometimes were not the positive ones. Sometimes people published their angers, sadness, hate on their social media. Instead of praises or positive reactions, they got bullied. They had disgraced themselves for sake of the popularity or attentions.

While some people showed who they actually were, the other showed a fake life that they presented on their status updating. Somehow, it was so sad. They had to lie and pretend to be happy while actually they didn’t. For example, some people post an istagram story that showed their holiday activities in other country, but the truth was they just found some spots that looked same to the scenery in that country.

I don’t know how you use your social media updating facility, but for me, I rarely update my status or my instagram, especially if it is connected to my personal life. I don’t need other’s permission or agreement to enjoy my life. My life is directed by God and me, not other’s opinion. In addition, I don’t care how other people appreciate me as long as I spread some positive things – according to me. I don’t ask you to follow my way in using media social, but I hope you using your media social and the facilities that provided wisely. Have a nice social media activities.

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Bukan pemeran utama..

Dalam setiap film pasti ada pemeran utama dan ada pemeran pembantu. Pemeran utama tentu mendapat porsi, perhatian dan scene yang lebih besar dari pemeran pembantu. Tak jarang hal ini membuat pemeran pembantu bahkan kadang dianggap kurang penting dari pemeran utama. Apakah benar demikian? Tentu saja tidak. Tanpa adanya pemeran pembantu, film itu tidak akan berhasil. Bayangkan saja jika dalam sebuah film hanya dibintangi oleh satu atau dua orang pemeran utama, tak ada pemeran lainnya. Sebut saja film Indonesia yang semua orang pasti tahu, AADC yang kemudian dibuat sekuelnya tahun ini, AADC 2. Meskipun fokus cerita film itu terpusat pada kisah Cinta dan Rangga, tetapi kehadiran orang-orang di sekitar mereka membuat film itu lebih menarik. Apa jadinya jika tidak ada pemeran pembantu di film itu, misalnya tidak ada geng Cinta yang heboh dan turut memegang alur cerita ketika mereka mengatur pertemuan Cinta dan Rangga? Atau bagaimana jika tidak ada karyawan perempuan di kafe milik Rangga yang di akhir film sempat membuat Cinta salah paham? Betapa membosankannya film itu bukan?

Melalui uraian di atas saya mencoba menekankan bahwa setiap orang memiliki peranan masing-masing dalam sebuah kisah. Mungkin saja peran si A lebih kecil dari si B, tapi kehadiran si A tetap saja mempengaruhi seluruh jalan cerita, bahkan juga mempengaruhi perilaku si B, si C dan orang-orang lainnya.

Anda mungkin bertanya apa hubungannya dengan kita? Pernahkan anda berpikir bahwa dalam sebuah kisah, kita tidak ditakdirkan menjadi pemeran utama, tetapi hanya sebagai pemeran pembantu?

Banyak orang selalu berpikir tentang dirinya, menjadikan dirinya sebagai yang utama, pusat dari segala sesuatu, atau dengan kata lain ingin menjadi yang utama, ingin diperhatikan dan mendapat porsi yang lebih besar daripada orang lain. Apakah hal itu salah? Tentu saja tidak. Yang salah adalah jika kita tidak tahu di mana posisi kita, lantas kita menuntut lebih dari apa yang menjadi peranan kita, atau kita mengabaikan tugas yang seharusnya kita kerjakan karena merasa hal itu tidak penting dan malah mengurusi tugas orang lain, yang notabene bukan bagian kita. Kadang, harus disadari bahwa tidak semua dari kita merupakan pemeran utama dalam sebuah scene. Misalnya, dalam pekerjaan di kantor, mungkin kita hanya karyawan biasa, kita bukan bos yang memiliki kedudukan dan peranan besar di kantor itu. Apakah dalam menjalankan tugas dan peranan kita sebagai karyawan, kita bekerja dengan sungguh-sungguh, atau justru hanya asal-asalan karena merasa peranan kita tidak penting? Kejadian lain misalnya, ketika rekan kerja kita diminta untuk menangani proyek baru yang dirasa sangat penting, sehingga semua perhatian di kantor itu tercurah kepada rekan kerja dan proyek yang dipegangnya itu, dan cenderung mengabaikan kita, apakah hal itu membuat kita iri, atau kita tetap bekerja dengan penuh semangat dan bersedia memberikan bantuan apabila teman kita itu meminta bantuan kita?

Mengakhiri tulisan ini, saya ingin menutup dengan sebuah statement.

Dunia ini adalah panggung sandiwara, lantas bagaimana jika kita bukan pemeran utama dalam sandiwara itu?

Hatred

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Hater… Today it was common to find that someone has a hater or haters. Some celebrities even have thousands of haters. The haters even have their own group and they always give a bad comment about the celebrity. I don’t have any idea why someone became a hater. Well, I myself had an experience becoming a hater. I used to hate my friend. The source of my hatred was I was disappointed in her. When we had group homework, she didn’t do her part yet always complained about our work. Well, I thought it was reasonable enough to make me didn’t want to be friend with her. But it was in the past.

When thinking about it, I asked myself, what was I looking for as being a hater? What did I get? Nothing. I got nothing for becoming a hater. Instead, I lost my happiness because I always thought how to get rid of her. I meant I didn’t want her be near me. The most annoying thing was she didn’t aware of my hatred toward her. She keep did her usual activity as if everything was ok. I once told her that I hated her acts, but innocently, she didn’t keep it on mind. At the end, I suffered because of my hatred but she didn’t feel anything. You see, there was no point of hating someone.

The other negative impact of hatred is it spreads. Once we hating someone, we would speak his bad only to the people around us. The longer we talked his badness, the people around us became hating him even at first they didn’t. At the end, we became the agent of hatred that destroy the relationships between the people surround us and him. We sacrificed them for nourishing our hatred. In my case, I got my friends hated her. At first, they just thought that she was annoying but later they hated her too.

From my experience, I learnt that hatred was not only consuming the object of my hatred, but also consuming me and my friends. My hatred destroyed all of us. I know it was easy to speak don’t hate but it’s really hard to implement it. However all of us have a choice, a choice to grow hatred or to let it go. Please make a wise choice..