Petingkah ?

Jika hal itu penting dan berharga bagimu, maka tak mungkin kau tidak akan memperjuangkannya, kecuali kau menganggap hal itu tidak penting…

Banyak hal yang menurut kita penting, tetapi pada kenyatannya tidak. Kita tidak mau berjuang dan berusaha untuk mendapatkannya. Jika kau menyukai seseorang, maka kau tentu akan berusaha keras untuk mendapatkannya dan membuatnya bahagia bukan? Ketika orang yang kau sukai sedang mengalami kesulitan, bukankah kau akan dengan senang hati membantunya, meskipun mungkin dirimu juga sedang manghadapi suatu masalah? Kau bahkan rela membelah gunung dan menyeberangi samudera demi menemuinya – well, ini pengalaman temanku sih, dia bersedia menyeberangi kota karena kekasihnya tinggal di sisi lain dari kota ini. Bukankah dengan demikian kau memprioritaskannya di atas segalanya?

Lalu bagaimana dengan hal-hal lain? Misalnya, skripsi untuk seorang mahasiswa. Jika memang skripsi itu sangat penting, maka tentu mahasiswa itu akan berjuang keras untuk dapat segera menyelesaikan skripsinya dan tidak mengulur-ngulur waktu kelulusannya. Contoh lain adalah keluarga, orang tua/ anak misalnya. Seorang orang tua yang mengasihi anaknya tentu tidak akan tinggal diam ketika anaknya sakit. Ketika anaknya sakit, maka mereka akan berusaha untuk membuatnya sembuh, menjaga nya sepanjang malam, bahkan mungkin tidak akan dapat makan dan tidur dengan nyenyak – ini juga pengalaman temanku saat anaknya sakit. Ketika anak kesulitan mengerjakan tugas sekolah, orang tua nya tentu takkan tinggal diam. Mereka akan berusaha membantu si anak, mengajari untuk menyelesaikan tugas sekolahnya, meskipun mungkin pelajaran jaman now sangat berbeda dengan pelajaran jaman old hehe. Tak peduli selelah apa pun orang tua selepas bekerja seharian, mereka pasti akan meluangkan waktu untuk meladeni anaknya.

Kurasa masih banyak contoh-contoh sederhana dalam kehidupan sehari-hari yang menunjukkan prioritas kita dalam hidup ini. My point is apakah hal yang menurut kita penting itu benar-benar penting? Apakah kita bersedia mencurahkan segenap perhatian kita kepada hal yang ‘penting’ itu, atau justru sebenarnya perilaku kita menunjukkan bahwa ada hal lain yang lebih ‘penting’ daripada hal-hal yang telah masuk dalam kategori ‘penting’ kita? Selamat berefleksi…

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To fail is not a failure…

Who wants to fail?  I’m sure that no one wants to. Unfortunately, failure is part of our life. No body always be success in his life. Everyone had failed. But, how we response our failure will determine who we are. Failure can break people, when at the other hand it can strengthen their character. If you are in the first group, failure will end your journey. But I have you are in the second one. Instead of gave up when failed, they tried harder in order to overcome it.

If you are in the second one, I know that you will not hate failure, even I don’t recommend you to enjoy it, but you will accept it as a process of maturity and character building. I myself think that failure is something that we need to grow up. After overcome some failures, a man can be stronger than before. You know the statement that says whatever that doesn’t kill you will make you stronger, don’t you? I’m 100% agree with it. Facing my failure taught me a lot of things. In addition to the previous one that I wrote, it taught me that it was grace that made me succeed. At that time, when I struggled with my failure, some friends came and helped me. At the other time, there were on one helped me, but suddenly my condition got better just after I decided to humble myself, give up my ambition and accept my failure. You know, maybe some failures happened because we got arrogant and as the result of our arrogance, God granted us the failure. That’s why I said that failure was a moment to learn, to correct ourselves and make us a better person.

The other thing that I got from my failure was I knew who my true friend. They who keep stood with me, even I failed, even I had nothing, were my true friend. Instead of leaving me, they supported me, encouraged me to pass my hard time. I believe you know the statement that says when you success, your friends know who are you, but when you fail, you know who are your friends.

To me, two reasons that I gave before were enough to say that I will not hate failure, even to fail was not my goal. Failure is not an option, it is a path that we have to pass if we want to success. The thing that we must have in our mind is how to face it smartly and not to repeat it again. So, don’t be afraid of fail. Failure is ok as long as we learn from it and use it as a ladder to success.

there is a time for everything

Did you ever get disappointed because you didn’t get the thing you wanted so much at that time? What did you feel? Were you angry? Or sad? I had experienced it. I had some wishes that were not granted at the time that I expecting. I got some rejections when I applied for a job, and those made me sad, angry and depressed. At that time, I wanted to get my wish granted at the moment. But it was not happened. Later, I learned that my wish was not granted because it was not a right time. Today, I have a job that much better than I expected.

I don’t know how about you. Each of us has our own moment. Don’t be sad if your time is not yet to come, but keep believe that the rejection, the pain you got today will be paid in the future.