it’s not about me

How often did you use the word ‘me’ or ‘I’ in your conversation? I think it was a lot enough. Even I used it in my first three sentences hehe…

Well, it looked like a simple thing but without we realized, it made us the center of our universe. Was it wrong? Of course not, I think. Yet, it made us thought ourselves higher than the others or sometimes we thought that we didn’t need other people in our life. Everything we did, we did it for ourselves, even without considerated other people. Our mind was programmed to think ourselves first and completely thought that we were the superhuman in our universe. For example, we did ever plan something, didn’t we? How often did we think about other people or other chance that might be ruined our plans? I my self always made plans and thought they would be success but in the end, a lot of things happened and ruined my plans. You see, I’m not a decision maker in my universe.

Take another consideration. Without me or my think, this universe still moves on. Even when I passed away or vanished, it didn’t affect this universe, hmmm maybe it would affect it a little, just a little. Yet, it would not be destroyed. I’m not the ruler of this universe. Instead, I must follow this universe’s way of life. Even I can decide what will I do in the future, but I can’t change my past. I can’t change my father and mother, my family, my date of birth and my gender. I can’t choose to be born in which family as well as can’t choose to be born as a boy or a girl. I’m totally hopeless. In the end, I can’t choose when and how I will end my life. If I don’t want to die, still I will die someday.

You see, sometimes our mind tricked us. It led us to think high on ourselves. But the truth is we are nothing than a mere human. There were a lot of things that out of our control. Yet, they were still under the control of The Great Creator. You know what is it means?

Worry nothing, sleep well. Take a breath and enjoy your life. Stop being god and let He be. Enjoy your unpredictable life as an adventure. At least it is a choice that we can made.


Why must we work hard?

If that question was presented to you, what would your answer be?

Would you answer it was because of your pride and your fear of failure? Well, some people did work hard because they pursued wealth, good reputation for their pride. Believe me, I was part of this group. Therefore, there was no room for failure. In order to achieve it, they must work hard and harder. It’s a good perception, I think, but it was also vulnerable. What if suddenly you lost your aim, or your reputation broke, or you did a big mistake that ruined everything you had achieved? Maybe it was happened on the people who committed suicide.

Maybe you had other answer. Maybe you work hard because you pursued the blessing of God. I had some friends that did much work in order to get blessing. They thought the harder they work, the more God would bless them. However, what if God didn’t bless you even you did your best. I knew some good people who lived a godly life but had accidents in their life. There was an honest man who never cheated and always worked diligently, but one day, he got an incurable disease. I knew some women who were hard worker and helpful but lost their husband and be widows in their youth.

However, they did not stop doing their daily job, because they did it not for themselves. To work was a human being’s nature. It was not because we wanted to achieve something, instead we worked because we were alive. We worked because we wanted to do something for ourselves and others. If we did it merely only for ourselves, we would get exhausted and gave up when we didn’t get what we wanted. But we didn’t worked blindly because there were something that we couldn’t change or get in this life. For example, there were some people who wanted to be a president and they worked hard in order to achieve it, but in the end we knew that they never be. What if we faced that situation?

I did ever experience it. When my hard work seemed to be nothing and my goal was not achieved, I had two choices, the first one was giving up and blamed everything and everyone and the second one was smiling and letting it be. I did both of them. At first I was angry and blamed everyone, but it would never change the situation. However, in the end I learned to accept it. No matter what happened, it had been happened, but I knew that it was still under God’s control. So, it should be ok. Whether I was success or not, it was on His hand. My part was keep doing my work as good as I can.

If you asked me, that was my answer…

What did you think?

What did you think when an honest public officer suddenly got caught for corruption?

What did you think when an old couple that have been married for decades suddenly got divorce?

What did you think when a smart student with a bright future suddenly did suicide?

What did you think when your girl/boyfriend that is your wife/husband-to-be-soon suddenly left you?

There was nothing impossible, was it?

Maybe some of you would not believe and think it was a hoax, a not funny joke, while the other some of you would regret it and hoped that was not real. Maybe some of you would curse their decision and thought that it was a big mistake.

However, it was decided and we as the outsiders did not any right to doubt their decision, even judged them. We were not them. We didn’t stand on their boots so we didn’t know why they made such decision. Apart of it was a horrible decision – according to us – it was happened and maybe they had thought it for a long time.

We didn’t know what made an honest officer stole the fund. Maybe he needed it or maybe it was his true face, all this time he just pretended to be an honest one.

We didn’t know why the grandpa and the grandma separated after years of marriage.  Maybe there was something in their marriage that they tried to endure but in the end, after fought for years, they couldn’t continue be together.

We didn’t know why the potential student decided to end his life. Maybe he was lonely as his parents were always busy with their work. Maybe he didn’t enjoy his life as much as we thought about it. Maybe he was depressed and burdened by his study.

We really had no idea why our soulmate-soon-to-be kicked us even our wedding day had decided. Maybe she/he was not our true soulmate. Maybe she/he cheated us for some time.

In the end, we never knew the reason and we didn’t need to know. Oh, maybe for the last one, we really needed to know since it affected out life, but for the rest, I did think the opposite. So, stop judging, stop doubting, even cursing. Everyone had their own life and I thought we didn’t like if a passerby suddenly insisted us to explain our decision, every details of our life, did we?

our time

Our past had been passed and would not be repeated again

It was not to be regretted or lamented

No matter we tried, it couldn’t be changed

Instead, it was to be learned, made sure we didn’t do the same mistakes


Our future has not come yet and is still far away

No need to worry or be anxious, maybe it will not turn up as we expected

Because we never know what will happen tomorrow

But one thing we know, there is always a hope for a better future


Our present is what we are doing today

Don’t do something useless that make us regret in the future days

Don’t waste it and make we lost our precious moment

Let’s enjoy and cherish this time, it’s out time to do our best

And don’t forget to give thanks for it is the future that you’re worried in the past