Jangan lupa bahagia…

Kalimat itu sering kudengar dari teman-temanku. Memang sih, kalimat itu sering kali ditujukan untukku. Itu merupakan ungkapan agar aku lebih meluangkan waktu untuk menikmati hal-hal yang menyenangkan, nggak cuma kerja, kerja, kerja, belajar, belajar, belajar… hahaha…

Mungkin banyak kita jumpai orang-orang yang seperti itu. Banyak orang yang bekerja keras dengan tujuan untuk memperoleh masa depan yang dianggap lebih baik, sehingga sering lupa untuk menikmati nikmat yang disediakan hari ini. Padahal, di masa depan nanti pun orang itu juga tidak akan menikmati apa pun. Dia akan semakin keras lagi berusaha, meskipun sebenarnya dia sudah memiliki apa yang diinginkannya. Bukankah demikian natur manusia, selalu merasa tidak puas. Pada akhirnya orang itu toh tidak menikmati apa pun.

Saya punya sebuah ilustrasi yang cukup menggelitik. Seorang pemuda bekerja keras untuk membeli sebuah mobil. Karena tidak memiliki mobil, maka dia menggunakan angkutan umum untuk bepergian, yaitu bus atau angkot, sembari berhemat dan terus menabung. Sekian tahun kemudian, akhirnya pemuda itu berhasil membeli sebuah mobil baru yang bermerk dengan uang hasil kerja keras dan hidup hemat nya. Meskipun demian, jaman telah berubah. Sekarang hampir semua orang memiliki mobil. Jalanan pun semakin padat dan kemacetan terjadi di mana-mana. Ditambah lagi menjamurnya angkutan umum online, membuat semua orang memilih menggunakan angkutan umum online, termasuk pemuda itu. Akhirnya mobil baru pemuda itu tidak pernah digunakan dan hanya tersimpan rapi di dalam gudang. Cukup ironis bukan? Orang bersusah-susah mengejar hal yang diinginkannya, tetapi setelah hal itu tercapai, situasi telah berubah, dan hal itu tidak lagi menjadi keinginannya.

Itu adalah contoh orang yang berorientasi ke masa depan, berusaha suapa masa depannya nanti bahagia, tetapi dia lupa bahwa dia hidup di masa sekarang. Masa depan, tak ada orang tahu. Namun, saya percaya bahwa hari esok pasti ada berkat nya sendiri. Berkat hari ini cukup untuk hari ini, dan berkat esok hari cukup untuk esok hari. Tak perlu bingung, takut dan khawatir menghadapi hari esok. Selama kita bijak dalam mengelola hidup ini, segala nya akan baik-baik saja.

So, menutup tulisan ini, saya ingin kembali mengingatkan agar jangan lupa bahagia…

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lessons from relife..

Do you know Relife manga? I enjoyed reading it because it taught me a life lesson. It is about a man who takes program to change him back to a teen in order to change himself as a better man. As the story goes on, he lives his re-life his as a high school student. There are so many lesson that I learned from the manga. On this occasion I want to share some lessons. Following the story, I think it will finish soon. The main character finally understood the purpose of re-life program and life itself.

At first, he didn’t want the program ended. He hated his old life and didn’t want to come back to his previous life as an adult. I think it was a human’s nature to run from the reality. All of us had our own problem and when we thought we couldn’t solve it, we choose to run away instead of fighting and solving out problem.

Back to the manga, the main character wanted to get rid of his old self as the old him was a loser. I think all of us have an unwanted past that if it was possible to erase it from our life, we would do it happily. However, realized or not, all of our past creates us at the present. Not only the happy moments, but the painful ones do have a part in creating the today us.  It’s all the good and bad things that happened in your past that makes you who you are today.

Without the imperfect part of our life, we never stand on here today. The failure makes us try harder so that in the end we can do everything better. All things happened in our life is happened for our sake. Be grateful for all of them.

The second one that I learned is that our life is very short to begin with. Our life is limited. It is our choice to decide how we spend our time. We have an option to do nothing as everything we did will vanish someday when we leave our life or we can choose to do our best in order to leave a beautiful legacy for our surrounding. Doing nothing is safer than trying to do something as in the end we have a same result, that we will end our life. Doing nothing gives us advantage as we will not feel anything, while trying to do something will make us exhausted and if we fail, we will feel painful. But, it is actually what we want? Will we want to do nothing? Of course not. Our life is too precious to be spent for doing nothing. For me, I just want to not regret my life in the future because I didn’t do the things that I should do.

That was my life lesson… how about you?

Petingkah ?

Jika hal itu penting dan berharga bagimu, maka tak mungkin kau tidak akan memperjuangkannya, kecuali kau menganggap hal itu tidak penting…

Banyak hal yang menurut kita penting, tetapi pada kenyatannya tidak. Kita tidak mau berjuang dan berusaha untuk mendapatkannya. Jika kau menyukai seseorang, maka kau tentu akan berusaha keras untuk mendapatkannya dan membuatnya bahagia bukan? Ketika orang yang kau sukai sedang mengalami kesulitan, bukankah kau akan dengan senang hati membantunya, meskipun mungkin dirimu juga sedang manghadapi suatu masalah? Kau bahkan rela membelah gunung dan menyeberangi samudera demi menemuinya – well, ini pengalaman temanku sih, dia bersedia menyeberangi kota karena kekasihnya tinggal di sisi lain dari kota ini. Bukankah dengan demikian kau memprioritaskannya di atas segalanya?

Lalu bagaimana dengan hal-hal lain? Misalnya, skripsi untuk seorang mahasiswa. Jika memang skripsi itu sangat penting, maka tentu mahasiswa itu akan berjuang keras untuk dapat segera menyelesaikan skripsinya dan tidak mengulur-ngulur waktu kelulusannya. Contoh lain adalah keluarga, orang tua/ anak misalnya. Seorang orang tua yang mengasihi anaknya tentu tidak akan tinggal diam ketika anaknya sakit. Ketika anaknya sakit, maka mereka akan berusaha untuk membuatnya sembuh, menjaga nya sepanjang malam, bahkan mungkin tidak akan dapat makan dan tidur dengan nyenyak – ini juga pengalaman temanku saat anaknya sakit. Ketika anak kesulitan mengerjakan tugas sekolah, orang tua nya tentu takkan tinggal diam. Mereka akan berusaha membantu si anak, mengajari untuk menyelesaikan tugas sekolahnya, meskipun mungkin pelajaran jaman now sangat berbeda dengan pelajaran jaman old hehe. Tak peduli selelah apa pun orang tua selepas bekerja seharian, mereka pasti akan meluangkan waktu untuk meladeni anaknya.

Kurasa masih banyak contoh-contoh sederhana dalam kehidupan sehari-hari yang menunjukkan prioritas kita dalam hidup ini. My point is apakah hal yang menurut kita penting itu benar-benar penting? Apakah kita bersedia mencurahkan segenap perhatian kita kepada hal yang ‘penting’ itu, atau justru sebenarnya perilaku kita menunjukkan bahwa ada hal lain yang lebih ‘penting’ daripada hal-hal yang telah masuk dalam kategori ‘penting’ kita? Selamat berefleksi…

To fail is not a failure…

Who wants to fail?  I’m sure that no one wants to. Unfortunately, failure is part of our life. No body always be success in his life. Everyone had failed. But, how we response our failure will determine who we are. Failure can break people, when at the other hand it can strengthen their character. If you are in the first group, failure will end your journey. But I have you are in the second one. Instead of gave up when failed, they tried harder in order to overcome it.

If you are in the second one, I know that you will not hate failure, even I don’t recommend you to enjoy it, but you will accept it as a process of maturity and character building. I myself think that failure is something that we need to grow up. After overcome some failures, a man can be stronger than before. You know the statement that says whatever that doesn’t kill you will make you stronger, don’t you? I’m 100% agree with it. Facing my failure taught me a lot of things. In addition to the previous one that I wrote, it taught me that it was grace that made me succeed. At that time, when I struggled with my failure, some friends came and helped me. At the other time, there were on one helped me, but suddenly my condition got better just after I decided to humble myself, give up my ambition and accept my failure. You know, maybe some failures happened because we got arrogant and as the result of our arrogance, God granted us the failure. That’s why I said that failure was a moment to learn, to correct ourselves and make us a better person.

The other thing that I got from my failure was I knew who my true friend. They who keep stood with me, even I failed, even I had nothing, were my true friend. Instead of leaving me, they supported me, encouraged me to pass my hard time. I believe you know the statement that says when you success, your friends know who are you, but when you fail, you know who are your friends.

To me, two reasons that I gave before were enough to say that I will not hate failure, even to fail was not my goal. Failure is not an option, it is a path that we have to pass if we want to success. The thing that we must have in our mind is how to face it smartly and not to repeat it again. So, don’t be afraid of fail. Failure is ok as long as we learn from it and use it as a ladder to success.

there is a time for everything

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Did you ever get disappointed because you didn’t get the thing you wanted so much at that time? What did you feel? Were you angry? Or sad? I had experienced it. I had some wishes that were not granted at the time that I expecting. I got some rejections when I applied for a job, and those made me sad, angry and depressed. At that time, I wanted to get my wish granted at the moment. But it was not happened. Later, I learned that my wish was not granted because it was not a right time. Today, I have a job that much better than I expected.

I don’t know how about you. Each of us has our own moment. Don’t be sad if your time is not yet to come, but keep believe that the rejection, the pain you got today will be paid in the future.

social media status updating

Today, we have a lot of kinds of status updating on media social. We started with facebook status update, then continued on blackberry’s and today, the most popular one was instagram story. Let me ask you, what do you expect of status updating?  What will you obtain after updating something in your social media?

I don’t know about you, but after watching and commenting my friend’s status, I concluded that they were looking for some attentions. The aim of their status updating was thy wanted to be got some likes or comments from anyone. Some of them wanted to be praised because they did something that amazed lots of people, while the other wanted to be noticed because somehow they felt that other people, especially their closest ones ignoring them. I myself had the same reasons behind publishing my social media statuses.

The question is: is it wrong? I don’t think so. Every human being needs to be loved, to be noticed, to be praised. It is a basic need. But, without realizing it, some people had exposed their personal life. They showed everyone how they actually were, only to get some attentions. The problem was the things that they published sometimes were not the positive ones. Sometimes people published their angers, sadness, hate on their social media. Instead of praises or positive reactions, they got bullied. They had disgraced themselves for sake of the popularity or attentions.

While some people showed who they actually were, the other showed a fake life that they presented on their status updating. Somehow, it was so sad. They had to lie and pretend to be happy while actually they didn’t. For example, some people post an istagram story that showed their holiday activities in other country, but the truth was they just found some spots that looked same to the scenery in that country.

I don’t know how you use your social media updating facility, but for me, I rarely update my status or my instagram, especially if it is connected to my personal life. I don’t need other’s permission or agreement to enjoy my life. My life is directed by God and me, not other’s opinion. In addition, I don’t care how other people appreciate me as long as I spread some positive things – according to me. I don’t ask you to follow my way in using media social, but I hope you using your media social and the facilities that provided wisely. Have a nice social media activities.