it’s ok to be imperfect

Perfection… of course all human beings want to get it. Having a healthy body, lovely family, highest grade, secure job, nice home, everyone want it, don’t they? Who want live alone, no money, no friends, jobless, and homeless? However, in the world we live in today, you can’t get everything you want.

Take a look at some businessmen. They might be success in their career and got wealthy, but how was their family? Some of them were unmarried, while others had problems in their family. There were only a few of them who had healthy relationship with their family.

So, is it wrong to dream a perfect live? Absolutely not. Everyone should set a goal as high as possible. Yet, the problem appeared when they couldn’t get the goal. While some people worked harder, the others got stress and gave up, even the worse was they gave up their live and chose to die. For those people, the pressure was unbearable.

Let me ask you a question, who put a heavy weight on your shoulder? Are they not the society, are they? The society told us that if we want to live happily, we must have everything that I wrote before. They told us to be success in everything and if you were having most of it but missed only one thing, it couldn’t be considered as a success. That’s why most of people couldn’t stand it because they regretted the thing that they couldn’t achieve and forgot the others that they have had. It seems that if they were imperfect and unsuccessful, they wouldn’t be accepted by the society.

Now, let’s take a look at God. Does He want us to be perfect? Yes, He does. Matthew 5:48 tells us. However, the distinction of God and the society is while the society gives us no room for imperfection, God accepts us even we are imperfect. Roma 5:8 tells us that God love us even we were a sinner. Yes, He wants us to be perfect, but He knows that human is imperfect. Nobody’s perfect, isn’t they? That’s why God will make us perfect. When you put your life in His hands, your family, career, study, wealth, everything you have, I believe He will make it perfect. Ok, maybe it’s true that you still are not be able to get your dreams come true, but you will find a satisfaction in your hearth. You need not hold the burden of perfection and successful life from society any longer. You are free to be imperfect and unsuccessful as long as in the eyes of God it is a perfect and success life that He created for you…


To fail is not a failure…

Who wants to fail?  I’m sure that no one wants to. Unfortunately, failure is part of our life. No body always be success in his life. Everyone had failed. But, how we response our failure will determine who we are. Failure can break people, when at the other hand it can strengthen their character. If you are in the first group, failure will end your journey. But I have you are in the second one. Instead of gave up when failed, they tried harder in order to overcome it.

If you are in the second one, I know that you will not hate failure, even I don’t recommend you to enjoy it, but you will accept it as a process of maturity and character building. I myself think that failure is something that we need to grow up. After overcome some failures, a man can be stronger than before. You know the statement that says whatever that doesn’t kill you will make you stronger, don’t you? I’m 100% agree with it. Facing my failure taught me a lot of things. In addition to the previous one that I wrote, it taught me that it was grace that made me succeed. At that time, when I struggled with my failure, some friends came and helped me. At the other time, there were on one helped me, but suddenly my condition got better just after I decided to humble myself, give up my ambition and accept my failure. You know, maybe some failures happened because we got arrogant and as the result of our arrogance, God granted us the failure. That’s why I said that failure was a moment to learn, to correct ourselves and make us a better person.

The other thing that I got from my failure was I knew who my true friend. They who keep stood with me, even I failed, even I had nothing, were my true friend. Instead of leaving me, they supported me, encouraged me to pass my hard time. I believe you know the statement that says when you success, your friends know who are you, but when you fail, you know who are your friends.

To me, two reasons that I gave before were enough to say that I will not hate failure, even to fail was not my goal. Failure is not an option, it is a path that we have to pass if we want to success. The thing that we must have in our mind is how to face it smartly and not to repeat it again. So, don’t be afraid of fail. Failure is ok as long as we learn from it and use it as a ladder to success.

When you want to give up

When you want to give up
Please consider what you have done
Remember what your goal is
Remind yourself about the hardness that you endured
Recall your achievements and how hard you struggled for them

When you want to give up
Believe that there is a success which is waiting for you
Stop doubting yourself as you are created unique and the only one
Convince yourself that your dream is coming true
Keep on your feet and pace yourself

Coz you determine your success so don’t give up yet…


A lesson from jumping plat louse

Days ago, I listened the radio and the speaker said about the jumping plant louse. He said there was an experiment used the jumping plant laouse. The louse was placed in a jar and the jar was closed. The louse jumped for many times but it couldn’t get out from the jar because the jar was closed. Finally after the louse tried for many times, it gave up and stop jumping. Then some minutes after it, the cover of jar was opened, but the interesting one was the louse still keep jumped with the same heigh. The louse wasn’t realize that the jar was opened. That’s why it didn’t jumped higher.

Learned from the jumping plant louse, our life was totally resemble it. Each of us have so many potential indeed, but may be because of the situation and condition, there was a time when we thought it was our maximal potential and we stop trying harder for maximize our potential. Because we has put the border in our mind and we decide that was our limit, in the end most of us didn’t get success.

The way we thought about our self reflected how would we become. It’s same with the louse. When the louse believed that it couldn’t jump higher because the jar was closed, it didn’t keep higher even when the jar’s cover removed. Maybe we had faced so may failure int hte past and they made we believed that we couldn’t do more, but there is God who always be with us and in God there is hope.

Remember, Thomas Alfa Edison made 99 failures before he finally created lamp. I try to look that he didn’t make 99 failure but he needed 99 failure for the best one. No matter how big your problem, there is nothing impossible for God. But the question is will you believe in Him and keep your best for trying?  Our job is trying and it’s His job to decide will He let us pass or not, according to His plan.



Give us our daily food…

I’m sorry for my poor English. Well, I try to write in English but I think it’s not good enough.

God never tought us praying for asking abundant food, luxurious house and expensive cars. But why people ask for them in their pray? Honestly,  it’s true that even I want a fine live, and if it’s possible I want a luxurious live. I think everyone wants to have a luxurius live, rich, and popular. It’s a view of life in this age.

Let’s think about success. What is success? Who is the success people? When we say about success, it means we say about people who are rich and famous. I think it’s identical with wordly wealth. And I think it’s a reality. What are people think success is drived them to legally did everything what they could do to get it, i mean to get wealth and fame. Money was be the goal of life.

Well, for me, success means i can do what must I do in my life, what have i to do to fulfill my purpose of life. I will be what i created to. I think everything has a certain purpose. It’s like I use pencil to write or eraser to erase a mistake . If a pencil can’t be used to write, we not need to buy it. Just throw it away. Same with us, the people. There are so many of us, and i think each of us has a specific purpose and role in this world. I think if a man is choosen to be an employer, it means there are the others thats determine to be employees. If everyone wants to be an employer, who will be the employees? It means neither we be an employer or employee, we are success as long as we fulfill our purpose of life and do the role that God determined for us.

Money, fame and wealth have been the measurement of success that lead people to leave the purpose of life. We are racing for wealth. A beautiful concept says money is not a goal, money is an instrument. When money used as a tool, it means there is something that more precious than the money itself, and we will use money wisely to get our final goal, that is absolutely not money.

Back to the pray, God taught us for asking our daily food. Why God didn’t tought us to ask for our weekly food, or monthly food? Because God wants us to pray daily. When we pray for our weekly food or monthly food, it means we pray once a week, or once a month. We need not pray everday. The truth is God wants us, the people always lean on Him, that our source of life we get only from Him.

It’s a lesson for us. Many of my friends say that I am so frugal. Well, I think I have to save my money for future. Back to our topic, it’s true that God has already guaranted our food,mour life. He will provide us a fine life, not less or more. The problem is, will us think that our life is enough for us?