To fail is not a failure…

Who wants to fail?  I’m sure that no one wants to. Unfortunately, failure is part of our life. No body always be success in his life. Everyone had failed. But, how we response our failure will determine who we are. Failure can break people, when at the other hand it can strengthen their character. If you are in the first group, failure will end your journey. But I have you are in the second one. Instead of gave up when failed, they tried harder in order to overcome it.

If you are in the second one, I know that you will not hate failure, even I don’t recommend you to enjoy it, but you will accept it as a process of maturity and character building. I myself think that failure is something that we need to grow up. After overcome some failures, a man can be stronger than before. You know the statement that says whatever that doesn’t kill you will make you stronger, don’t you? I’m 100% agree with it. Facing my failure taught me a lot of things. In addition to the previous one that I wrote, it taught me that it was grace that made me succeed. At that time, when I struggled with my failure, some friends came and helped me. At the other time, there were on one helped me, but suddenly my condition got better just after I decided to humble myself, give up my ambition and accept my failure. You know, maybe some failures happened because we got arrogant and as the result of our arrogance, God granted us the failure. That’s why I said that failure was a moment to learn, to correct ourselves and make us a better person.

The other thing that I got from my failure was I knew who my true friend. They who keep stood with me, even I failed, even I had nothing, were my true friend. Instead of leaving me, they supported me, encouraged me to pass my hard time. I believe you know the statement that says when you success, your friends know who are you, but when you fail, you know who are your friends.

To me, two reasons that I gave before were enough to say that I will not hate failure, even to fail was not my goal. Failure is not an option, it is a path that we have to pass if we want to success. The thing that we must have in our mind is how to face it smartly and not to repeat it again. So, don’t be afraid of fail. Failure is ok as long as we learn from it and use it as a ladder to success.


3 forbidden words

  1. I can’t

When you said ‘I can’t’ actually you were closing your mind for finding solution and trying to solve the problem. On the other side, if you said ‘I can’ you let your mind finding the solution.

  1. Impossible

They who said ‘impossible’ would close the door for miracle. By doing it, they prevented themselves from getting something great. It’s because everything we have today is something that impossible we got yesterday. There is always a miracle everyday for they who believe in God.

  1. I know

Saying ‘I know” means you’re closing the door for learning, so we don’t try to learn something new. Instead, there is always something new to learn in our life.

A lesson from jumping plat louse

Days ago, I listened the radio and the speaker said about the jumping plant louse. He said there was an experiment used the jumping plant laouse. The louse was placed in a jar and the jar was closed. The louse jumped for many times but it couldn’t get out from the jar because the jar was closed. Finally after the louse tried for many times, it gave up and stop jumping. Then some minutes after it, the cover of jar was opened, but the interesting one was the louse still keep jumped with the same heigh. The louse wasn’t realize that the jar was opened. That’s why it didn’t jumped higher.

Learned from the jumping plant louse, our life was totally resemble it. Each of us have so many potential indeed, but may be because of the situation and condition, there was a time when we thought it was our maximal potential and we stop trying harder for maximize our potential. Because we has put the border in our mind and we decide that was our limit, in the end most of us didn’t get success.

The way we thought about our self reflected how would we become. It’s same with the louse. When the louse believed that it couldn’t jump higher because the jar was closed, it didn’t keep higher even when the jar’s cover removed. Maybe we had faced so may failure int hte past and they made we believed that we couldn’t do more, but there is God who always be with us and in God there is hope.

Remember, Thomas Alfa Edison made 99 failures before he finally created lamp. I try to look that he didn’t make 99 failure but he needed 99 failure for the best one. No matter how big your problem, there is nothing impossible for God. But the question is will you believe in Him and keep your best for trying?  Our job is trying and it’s His job to decide will He let us pass or not, according to His plan.


Nothing impossible

I was like watching Masterchef programs very much. It was very amazing when the winner of Masterchef US season 3 was Christine, a blind woman. Christine inspired me very much. She could overpower her limitation, her blind and get the champion. Who could predict that she would be the winner. Maybe most people looked down her. But she could make a difference and she made herself an inspirational one.

When I thought bout my condition, it made me shame.  I have normal condition, but when I faced difficulty, I gave up. I didn’t try my best. I just thought it was ver hard and I could do it, even I gave up before I tried. I thought it was impossible for me so I easily gave up.

Look back to Christine, I read that she began to learn cooking after she had lost her sight. What if she thought it was impossible for a blind woman to cook with her hands? We wouldn’t get her as the Masterchef champion, and she couldn’t give many people inspiration.

Considering Luca, the Masterchef US season 4 winner. He used to fail before in the Masterchef 3 audition, but he went back in season 4 and he made it, he made himself as Masterchef 4 contestant. In the first episodes, Luca always got bad comments and he was looked very bad, I think he would get elimate soon, but it’s not happenned. Luca proved himself good enough and hardwork so he could overpower his skill. What if Luca stop to try after his first failure and did’t come back? He wouldn’t be the Masterchef champion. They have proved impossible is nothing. It’s seems to I’m possible than impossible.

When I thought about them and looked myself, well, if they could make it, I suposed to do the same thing too. About my preparation for TOEFL test, I almost gave up and think it was impossible for me to get the high score, that was an example case of my life, but beside it, there are so many hardness in this life. There is always a chance for win, it’s up to us wheter we choose to use the chance, even it’s ver small, or to close it.



1. It’s better to explain why are you fail than to explain why do you not try.

2. It’ not easy, but it’s not the reason for not try. Stop complaining and start trying.

3. Say this loud : My job is not  doubt my possibility for succes. But it is trying.

4. There are so many surprise in our life gained by the people who would like to try.

Well, in addition, we never know what will we get if we do not try… =)

Keep try

“Huh… apakah aku akan berhasil melewati tes TOEFL ini?” Aku menghempaskan tubuhku pada sofa yang tersedia di kafe itu. Kepalaku benar-benar terasa berat karena setengah isi buku TOEFL setebal 10 cm sudah berpindah tempat, tentunya kupindahkan ke dalam kepalaku.
“Makanya belajar!” sahut orang yang duduk di sebelah kiriku. Dua kata yang diucapkannya benar-benar terasa menampar pipiku. Aku mengelus pipi kiriku. Tidak sakit. “Kalau kamu nggak belajar ya kamu sudah pasti nggak lulus.” Ingin aku memasukkan gumpalan tanganku ke mulutnya, jika saja aku belum kehilangan kewarasanku.
“Kamu nggak tahu sih, susah tahu…”
“Makanya belajar!” Kembali dia mengulangi kalimat itu. “Tunggu sebentar ya!” Dia bangkit berdiri, menuju ke counter. Aku menyandarkan punggungku ke bantalan sofa sembari mencoba memutar kembali deretan kata-kata yang kuhafalkan tadi, tentunya dalam Bahasa Inggris.
“Nih, punyamu!” Dia menyodorkan cup berisi coffe milk tea pesananku sembari mengambil tempat duduk di sebelahku.
“Kenapa kamu nggak duduk di depanku saja?” tanyaku sambil memainkan topping buble pada minumanku itu.
“Kursinya keras. Enakan di sofa. Empuk.”
“Shall we practise?” Dia sengaja memancingku dengan berkata-kata dalam Bahasa Inggris.
“Ohhh… can’t we just have vacation today? It’s Saturday night…”
“Practise makes you better!”
“Whatever. I’m not sure about my English skill. Can I pass the TOEFL test, I mean can I get highest score?” Aku mulai menghisap minumanku. Beberapa topping buble berdesakan saat mereka melewati sedotan menuju ke mulutku.
“I don’t know.” Dia menghisap minumannya. Dalam hati aku bertanya apakah milk latte pesanannya enak. Setidaknya warna putihnya memberiku first impression yang buruk. Aku tidak suka warna putih. Terlalu pucat. “You never know until you try.”
“But, how if I fail?” Aku memperhatikan sepasang remaja yang duduk tak jauh dari kami. Menurutku mereka pasangan yang aneh. Mereka nampak sedang berkencan, maksudku berkencan dengan gadget mereka masing-masing.
“The one thing I know is you will certainly fail if you never try.” Katanya sambil memutar cup minumannya dan mendorong cup itu beberapa centi ke arahku. “You’ve got message from Mr. Calais. Read it!”
Mau tak mau mataku pun bergerak menuju ke cup itu. Seulas senyum mengembang di bibirku saat membaca tulisan yang terpampang di situ. “Ok, you win.”

Bagaimana ini? Aku stress. Rasanya nggak mungkin aku bisa lolos tes TOEFL dengan skor setinggi itu. Kukirimkan BBM singkat kepadanya sambil berbaring di atas kasur. Buku TOEFL setebal 10 cm itu tergeletak di lantai, masih terbuka.
I think you’ve got enough spirit for study. Dia membalas BBM ku dalam Bahasa Inggris. Oh, not again. Kurasa otakku sudah cukup kenyang setelah hampir dua jam melahap buku TOEFL.
I think it’s imposible. I know my skill. I can’t do it. I think I’ll give up.
I think we spoke about it yesterday.
But it’s really hard. I’m not smart enough.
Kutunggu beberapa menit sambil terus melirik blackberry hitam yang tergelat di samping kepalaku. Tak ada jawaban. Aku pun bangkit dari tempat kasurku dan mulai merapikan buku TOEFL yang kutelantarkan di atas lantai saat kudengar suara dari blackberry ku dan kulihat lampunya berkelap-kelip. Dia membalas BBM ku.
What’s this? Dia mengirimkan sebuah gambar yang membuat mulutku terkunci.
Krismint Liem林玉敏qas
Keep study. You’ll find a way. The fact that you’re afraid is add more reason for you study hard. Dia menambahkan kalimat itu tak lama kemudian.
You win… again. Balasku.